It's been two weeks since my father-in-law passed away. He lived to be 98 years old, and left behind his 91 year old wife of 73 years. She is having a difficult time coping with widowhood, and even though her two sons are doing the best they can to meet her needs, she still misses her husband. She calls every evening and we chat. We live two hours from her so it is difficult to be able to help her deal with her grief. She is also developing dimentia, so everyday duties are becoming much more challenging for her. Fortunately, we found some ladies who visit her everyday, and help her.
Where did the years go? They built their lives together on love. She was 18 years old when they married. They produced a daughter and two sons, and they watched them grow up and have families of their own. They had joys and grief. They watched the world change right before their eyes. They lived frugally, being children of the Great Depression, yet they were generous, especially with the bountiful vegetables they grew in their garden. Anyone who visited always left with a bag of vegetables. Divorce was never an option. Through the years, they learned how to live with each other, how to tolerate each other, and found themselves being molded into one couple. Not two people, but one couple. They found themselves being dependent on each other, making them complete. What one lacked, the other fulfilled. A beautiful couple.
His passing reminded me that someday my husband and I will have to part at death, leaving the other one behind. Are we making the best of the time we have together? Or are we taking these years for granted? We have had our ups and downs, our joy and grief. And through it all, we have learned to depend on each other too. We are no longer individuals, but one couple. The way God intended.
It is sad to see marriage redefined in today's culture. The Bible clearly says that marriage is between one man and one woman. Genesis 2:24 tells us "A man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." A man and a woman were created with different qualities, in our bodies and our minds, to compliment each other, to meet each other's needs, and to create children. God designed us to become bonded to each other. No longer separate, but together. One unit, not to be broken. The enemy, Satan, seeks to destroy what God has created, and he deceives people into believing lies. This has become a real issue in our society today; so much so, that separation has spawned even in families and churches. This is not God's plan for us!
If you truly want a blessed life, you must follow God's plan for your life. You must obey what the Bible teaches, and honor marriage the way God intended it to be. By doing so, you will find yourself at the end of your life, having known true love and companionship, through the ups and downs, through the joy and grief. A beautiful marriage is a beautiful life!